Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Cancer & Other Things!

Life is funny isnt it - one moment the World is at your feet and at the next you are thrown down the gutter.
So much has been going around in my life over the past few months that writing it down is a task now.
But I guess the learnings I had in these tough times has made me a more mature human being and I think I must share with whoever is reading this piece about things which may help a lot of people.
Diving straight to the topic, my father has been diagonosed with advanced stage Lungs Cancer with metastases on his bones. Devastating isnt it? More so coz if you know him, he has led a life which is nothing short of 'simple'. He never smoked, drank, and rarely had food from outside. So why him?
But then I studied a lot, discussed a lot with doctors, other patients, naturopathists, friends, relatives, friends of friends and eveything under the sun that I could think of.
We have heard this before and yet again here it is, the word is 'Immunity'. Is your immune system strong enough to fight all diseases? Is it strong enough to prevent ugly mutations in your cells? We wont know.We wont know till we are thrown against that big boulder called 'Cancer'.
Oh that reminds me, I never knew that about 70% of our immunity is in our small intestines. So are we bothered? I guess no, not yet. What are we feeding it? Lets think. Ok don't think - let me tell you what I used to feed it. It was always hungry for junk food, colas, red meat, processed meat, cheese, fried stuff and what not.
And what do I feed it now? Ever since knowing about my dad's condition it eats home made food, mostly prepared from organic grains and veggies. White meat and that too once a week. Yes I do cheat once in a while but thats it. I try to feed the food which I never liked much but which is healthy. The exact kind of food your mom wanted to give you as a kid but you rejected and turned to chips and cola.
Alright, now coming to my dad's condition again, he was diagonosed earlier this year and the doctors almost summoned a death sentence for him by saying its not curable. Surprisingly he didnt have any direct symptoms of lungs cancer, as in no fever, no cough, no blood, all he had was that terrible pain in the lumbar spine where it spread and grew.
He was given 10 fractions of radiation to shrink that growth and relieve him of the pain. It worked. What didnt work was that the process damaged his nerves and even today he feels a constant numb tingling pain in his legs.
Well it didnt end there, now even though the disease as per the doctors is not curable, they still want to make it more painful by giving him chemo.
We are laymen but they know that chemo may extend his life for a few more months but his immunity will be dead to fight the disease and he will die a painful death. And yet they convince you into it. The money is big. BIG.
Anyways, there are lots of things you will know about Chemo and its effects online and you can read or watch videos. Its a huge industry. A big business. It may have helped some people but it certainly hasnt for many, else we wouldnt be so scared of the word cancer. Again its upto the discretion of the patient and his/ her family to go for it or try something better.
Better? Is there anything better than that? If you are thinking on those lines, you aren't alone. I was there too, a few months back.
So my dad had his first chemo. In two days, he had rashes on his body and his skin was peeling off like scales. He lost five kilograms in a week's time. He was so weak most of the times that going to the restroom was an ordeal. His bones hurt all the time.He cried and we were helpless.
The thing about Cancer is that it either makes the caregivers mentally very weak or very strong. We went through the weak phase in the beginning. I couldnt sleep through nights at a stretch. My mother tried to keep a happy face but I knew she was fighting tears inside. My husband tried to console me but he used to break down often.My father was the worst hit. He, who had been so conscious of his health and had remained so physically fit, how could he get cancer and that too 'Lungs Cancer'
We started looking for alternate therapies because Cancer certainly cannot be a death sentence. Thats when we stumbled upon a treatment whose roots are in the dense forests of Kerala, an its all natural, plant extracts. Its 5 months now and we see him getting better each day. Just to make sure that we are not leaving any stones unturned, he is also getting getting his daily dose of nutient energy from ayurvedic medicines from DS Research Center.
Its a long, tough battle we are not ready to cower under the fear of this disease and one day my father will be disease free. Ancient ayurveda and faith is the key.
Its easy to get demotivated and disheartened when one is going through this phase but thats when the real fight begins. You have to believe with your heart and soul that its not your time yet. A strong spirit can fight it all! Believe!